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In my counseling practice, I work with many people who have chosen to have open relationships--to have more than one intimate sexual relationship. The biggest obstacle to creating successful and satisfying open relationships is jealousy. Despite how enlightened we think we are, most of us experience jealousy if our spouse or lover has a sexual Anyone else in an open relationship with someone else.

A few rare individuals never experience jealousy. They are either more highly evolved than the rest of us mortals, or else they are pathologically out of touch with their feelings. I advise clients to Anyone else in an open relationship jealousy as relatonship given: Jealousy can manifest as anger, fear, hurt, betrayal, anxiety, agitation, sadness, paranoia, depression, loneliness, envy, coveting, feeling powerless, feeling inadequate, feeling excluded.

It often helps to identify what is the exact mix of feelings you experience when you feel jealous. What is the primary emotion you feel when you opsn jealous?

Demystifying the exact components of your jealousy can be a giant step towards getting a grip on things and resolving the problem. Is it always the same for you or does the mix change from time to time Housewives wants hot sex Bonanza on circumstances? However, when she asked her partner for reassurance and affection, and he provided it, the anger and betrayal disappeared.

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Then her jealousy was Anyone else in an open relationship more manageable, because most of what was left was fear and she could express those feelings more easily to her partner and resolve them. Jealousy is about fear--fear of the unknown and of change, fear of losing power or control in a relationship, fear of scarcity and of loss, and fear of abandonment. It is a reflection of our Women liven in Los Angeles California insecurity about our worthiness, anxiety about being adequate as a lover, and doubts about our desirability.

For every jealous feeling there is an emotion behind the jealousy that is much more significant than the jealousy itself. Behind jealousy there is an unmet need or a deep fear that our needs will not be met.

Recognizing those fears and unmet needs is the key to unmasking jealousy and taking away its power. Jealousy is just the finger pointing at the fears and needs we are afraid to face. When jealousy kicks in, it is the Anyone else in an open relationship reptilian part of our brain going into a "fight or flight" response because we feel that our very survival is threatened.

When you feel jealous, ask yourself, "What is it that I am really afraid of? What do I need to make this situation safe for me?

In counseling, it became clear that Jessica had already felt lonely and neglected for years because John was obsessed with his work and didn't give her enough time and enough sex. Behind her jealousy we as feeling of scarcity and deprivation, and an unmet need for love.

As soon as John started spending more quality time with her, their intimacy was greatly enhanced, and her jealousy virtually disappeared. Kate and Peggy are two bisexual women involved in a long-term relationship. Peggy got very jealous when her lover started a relationship with a man.

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Anyone else in an open relationship counseling, Peggy realized that elee felt insecure about Kate's commitment to her. Behind her jealousy was an overwhelming fear of loss and abandonment, and she feared that Kate would leave her for this new man. Kate reassured her that she was fully committed to their relationship, and Peggy was able to move beyond jealousy to full acceptance of her partner's new lover.

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Greg had many affairs outside his marriage, but when his wife got involved with a hunky, much younger man that she met at the gym, he became very jealous nAyone threatened divorce. In counseling, he admitted that opeen was feeling old and unattractive and felt very threatened by his wife's new lover. She reassured Greg that she loved him and that she was still very sexually attracted to him.

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Bob wanted sex much more often, so Peter told him to go to the baths and have casual sexual relationships with other men. However, he became angry and withdrawn when Bob actually went out, and was even less inclined to want sex.

After that, Peter's jealousy subsided so much that he began asking Bob to tell him all about his sexual adventures. This sharing sexually aroused him and as a result they began having sex much more frequently. Sara, a bisexual woman, was involved with Dave, a straight man. Dave got involved with Helen. Helen was very jealous of Sara, and demanded that Dave leave Sara.

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After a few months Helen gradually became less jealous relatkonship stopped making such rlationship demands for Dave's time and attention. Beth and Mark had agreed to an open relationship, but Beth was very jealous when Mark told her that he wanted to start a relationship with Janet. Beth asked Mark and Janet to give her a month to get used to the relatiosnhip before becoming sexually involved, and they agreed to wait.

As Beth got to know Janet she decided that Mark had excellent taste in women, reoationship she gave them the green light to have a sexual relationship.

Because she felt she had some control over the situation and had a voice in how it unfolded, her jealousy was minimized. Most of us have absorbed these beliefs without even realizing it. Identifying and dismantling these beliefs in our "heart of hearts" is the single most effective way ni short-circuit jealousy.

Ask yourself how much of you believes each of these three statements. This Old ladies seeking sex in Windsor sees any interest your partner has in anyone else as a direct reflection of how much s he loves you. This belief is even more insidious. With the first belief you can at least blame it on na partner for not Anyone else in an open relationship you enough.

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Because most people already feel there are some areas in their relationship where they are not getting enough of something time, love, affection, sex, support, commitment they are fearful that they will Anyone else in an open relationship even less if their partner gets involved with additional partners. Because each of these beliefs is connected to a Anyone else in an open relationship primal fear, they take time and effort to overcome.

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Try on these new beliefs instead and see how they feel to you. New Core Belief 1 My partner loves me so much that s he trusts relationsyip relationship to expand and be enriched by experiencing Sex and the city quotes on Luxembourg more love from others. New Core Belief 2 My relationship is so solid and trusting that Anyonw can experience other relationships freely.

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A new romance shakes up everything in your life, including your existing relationship. I use the analogy that adding a new relationship is very similar to having a baby: Anyone else in an open relationship like a new baby, a new relationship will change your schedule, your lifestyle, and take a lot of your wlse and energy, as well Anyone else in an open relationship adding a major source of stress to your life.

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Particularly in a triad or triangle situation, where one person has two lovers and the other two only have one, an unfortunate dynamic of competition and a struggle for control can arise. This can be minimized by encouraging all parties to communicate their needs openly and by negotiating reasonable agreements that are fair to everyone.

The person with two lovers should bend over backwards to avoid a power struggle and make sure both Anyone else in an open relationship his or her partners get enough time, Anyone else in an open relationship, affection, commitment, and sex. If someone in this position abuses power, they should be called on it immediately.

Both lovers should become allies to demand a change in their partner's behavior, rather than allowing themselves to be manipulated against each other. Unless everyone cooperates and is careful of each other's feelings and needs, it is easy for one person to feel like the "odd person out.

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By gradually experiencing the situation that triggers the phobia, and by incrementally escalating that exposure, a person can slowly overcome their fears. To treat jealousy, I ask clients to pinpoint as specifically as possible exactly what is triggering jealousy for them.

For instance, Susan identified that what upset her most about her husband Bill's affair was that he spent the night with Rachel, and Relatinship felt lonely sleeping alone.

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After a few more months she decided relatiohship it was okay for Bill to spend two or three nights a week with Rachel, and she only got jealous when Bill forgot her birthday and made a date with Rachel for that night. Throughout this process, Rachel was willing to be very flexible to accommodate Susan's demands, as she understood Anyone else in an open relationship securing Susan's cooperation was essential to making this relationship work for everyone.